The Wisdom to know the difference:  As we pray the Serenity Prayer, we learn that there are some things we can and cannot change. We can make some changes to ourselves by ourselves, but to make other changes in ourselves we need God's help.

By maintaining our conscious contact with God, as the Eleventh Step teaches, "Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and for the power to carry that out," we can have God's help in maintaining the changes God makes in us.

With God's help, we can make a lasting change in ourselves and in all of our relationships. These lasting changes will lead to our recognizing and receiving daily blessings from God and others. Likewise, we have discovered that there are very few, if any, beneficial and lasting changes that we can make directly in other people. God can make the changes where we cannot. We need to pray for wisdom to know the difference in all of our relationships.

With God's guidance and power, we can make some changes in ourselves that will result in others changing too. If we change our attitude, tone, voice, words, and actions, others will respond differently to us.

We have learned to "Let Go and Let God" make the changes that He sees fit to make in others and us, as we continue to pray for others and ourselves. As God removes our character defects, others will respond to us differently (and hopefully in better ways). Each day, as we pray the Serenity Prayer, we continue to pray for the Wisdom to know the difference.